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3 MINUTE MONDAYHi friend, “Talking about the thing and doing the thing vie for the same resources. Allocate your energy appropriately.” — Ryan Holiday This is an insight I’ve been thinking about for ages. It’s actually represented within our brains too. Talking about our plans gives us a small reward, a dump of dopamine. No where near as much as doing the thing would do. But it also takes no where near as much effort as doing the thing would do. This is how people can get stuck in the trap of always dreaming and never building. They inoculate themselves from having to do things in the real world by limiting their efforts to the confines of their skull. There’s something about this type of person which has always turned me off. I think it’s because our natural tendency is to respond to people who dream and pontificate by doing the same ourselves. And I’ve had a sense that being around these people encourages me to dream rather than build. I’ve never wanted to talk about things I want to do unless I’m making a real effort to bring them into reality. Generally, I think this is a good rule. Don’t discuss dreams unless you’re planning builds. We all have that friend who is fantastic at talking plans but never seems to make any progress toward them. That’s the person I never want to be or be around. Negative friends bring you down, but at least you know that they’re a bad influence. Fantasist friends do the same, but you don’t notice the effect. Don’t talk about it, be about it. MODERN WISDOMI do a podcast which has had 500 million+ downloads. You should subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. This week’s upcoming episodes: Monday. Thursday. Saturday. THINGS I'VE LEARNED1. “According to the primatologist Frans de Waal, who sadly recently died, manspreading is not unique to human males; it’s found as well in the males of many nonhuman primates. In other primates, it functions as both a sexual display and a dominance display: Only the most dominant males feel safe enough to sit with such a vulnerable area of their bodies exposed. Whether that’s the explanation in humans is anybody’s guess - but I imagine that manspreading is more common among confident guys than timid ones, so perhaps there’s some overlap in the psychology of manspreading in humans vs. nonhuman primates.” — Steve Stewart-Williams 2. “Harvard's Study of Adult Development followed 800 people throughout their lives and identified 6 key predictors of happiness and longevity:
The overall picture: Spend your first few decades building a good life and a well-rounded self. Then spend your remaining decades sharing with others what you have learned and gained.” — Rob Henderson 3. “Everyone is jealous of what you’ve got, no one is jealous of how you got it.” — Jimmy Carr LIFE HACKHow to plan a holistic lads’ trip. George Mack’s 30th in Miami last weekend was great. One lesson from scheduling was to always put something in the morning that: 1) Gets everyone up together. E-foiling and Pickleball in the mornings prevented anyone from struggling in bed, forced everyone into a bit of sunlight and set the day up amazingly. Big love, Try my productivity drink Neutonic. PS |
by Chris Williamson
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3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, It’s the 200th edition of this Newsletter! Two-flippin-hundred Mondays in a row. It also just broke 200,000 subscribers, so thank you to everyone who has joined and reads every week. If you’d like to say thank you & congratulate me - just tell your friends to join for free by sending them this link: https://chriswillx.com/books/ Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about this week. I love this one. Shadow sentences. You’re dating someone and they haven’t seen you...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “On social media, fools feel clever by mocking bigger fools, and scoundrels feel virtuous by condemning bigger scoundrels. We feel good simply by portraying others as worse. In an age of anxiety & inaction, many seek self-esteem not in their own abilities, but in other's failures.” — Gurwinder Bhogal This is one of my least favourite trends. I am so bored of cynicism on the internet. I'm sick of seeing comment sections just filled with self-defeating, world-hating...
3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Here are four of the most important things I’ve realised about problems and stress: 1. Problems are a feature of life, not a bug. There will never come a time when you have no problems. What, did you think that one day you’re just going to wake up and cease having problems? Like completing a video game and levelling up to a map where there’s nothing there? That’s never going to happen. Your problems will change, but having problems is going nowhere. Dealing with...