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3 Minute Monday

by Chris Williamson

Podcaster with 400m+ plays. I write about the most important lessons I learn from the best thinkers on the planet. 160,000+ people read my free newsletter. Press subscribe to join.

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3MM: Overthinking, Debunking & Sausage Fests

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, How much should you try to optimise your life? How much should you be thinking about ways to improve? How much should you care about things? For many people, perhaps even most, the answer to all of these questions is “more”. Indeed the world largely belongs to the intense optimisers, not the laissez-faire guy chilling in a hammock who hit snooze 3 times this morning. Telling people to optimise more is a reliable way to improve the lives of most people because most...

about 24 hours ago • 4 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, During my end of year review I asked myself two new questions: 1. What do I do that I think is productive but isn’t? 2. What do I do that I don’t think is productive but actually is? These were surprisingly easy to work out. 1. Sitting at my desk when I’m not working, being on calls with no actual objective, keeping Slack notifications at zero, sitting on email trying to get the Unread number down. 2. Saying yes to a random dinner when someone is coming through...

8 days ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, I’ve been thinking about overthinking recently. Probably overthinking about overthinking to be honest. And I came across a tweet: “This is your annual reminder that you don’t need to resolve your issues, you don’t need to deal with your emotional baggage, you don’t need to process your trauma, you don’t need to confront your past, you don’t need to figure yourself out, you can just go ahead and do the thing.” — Eliezer Yudkowsky We believe we need to prepare much...

15 days ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “I struggle to believe I’m worthy of moments of joy and peace without first putting myself through a brutal schedule, monitoring my productivity levels down to the minute. Perhaps some people apply this “earn your cookie” mindset in ways that lead to healthy achievements. Not me. Mine is a mutation whereby joy and self-compassion are regularly outlawed by an internal tyrant who decides when I’ve been flogged enough for one day. Just when I’m about to collapse, a...

22 days ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Here’s how to get Stoicism wrong: 1. Become emotionally immune to your successes but castigate yourself for your failures. This is Reverse Stoicism. It bestows all the downsides of indifference to your wins without any of the upsides of being immune to your losses. I think it's how many people operate - forgetting the victories but remembering the shortcomings. Reverse Stoicism is worse than no Stoicism at all. 2. Use it exclusively to benefit yourself. Stoicism was...

29 days ago • 2 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, It’s the 200th edition of this Newsletter! Two-flippin-hundred Mondays in a row. It also just broke 200,000 subscribers, so thank you to everyone who has joined and reads every week. If you’d like to say thank you & congratulate me - just tell your friends to join for free by sending them this link: https://chriswillx.com/books/ Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about this week. I love this one. Shadow sentences. You’re dating someone and they haven’t seen you...

about 1 month ago • 4 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “On social media, fools feel clever by mocking bigger fools, and scoundrels feel virtuous by condemning bigger scoundrels. We feel good simply by portraying others as worse. In an age of anxiety & inaction, many seek self-esteem not in their own abilities, but in other's failures.” — Gurwinder Bhogal This is one of my least favourite trends. I am so bored of cynicism on the internet. I'm sick of seeing comment sections just filled with self-defeating, world-hating...

about 1 month ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Here are four of the most important things I’ve realised about problems and stress: 1. Problems are a feature of life, not a bug. There will never come a time when you have no problems. What, did you think that one day you’re just going to wake up and cease having problems? Like completing a video game and levelling up to a map where there’s nothing there? That’s never going to happen. Your problems will change, but having problems is going nowhere. Dealing with...

about 2 months ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “Talking about the thing and doing the thing vie for the same resources. Allocate your energy appropriately.” — Ryan Holiday This is an insight I’ve been thinking about for ages. It’s actually represented within our brains too. Talking about our plans gives us a small reward, a dump of dopamine. No where near as much as doing the thing would do. But it also takes no where near as much effort as doing the thing would do. This is how people can get stuck in the trap...

about 2 months ago • 2 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “Neediness occurs when you place a higher priority on what others think of you than what you think of yourself. Any time you alter your words or behavior to fit someone else’s needs rather than your own, that is needy. Any time you lie about your interests, hobbies, or background, that is needy. Any time you pursue a goal to impress others rather than fulfill yourself, that is needy. Whereas most people focus on what behavior is attractive/unattractive, what...

2 months ago • 3 min read
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