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3 Minute Monday

by Chris Williamson

Podcaster with 400m+ plays. I write about the most important lessons I learn from the best thinkers on the planet. 160,000+ people read my free newsletter. Press subscribe to join.

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3MM: Productivity Debt, Taboos & Anxiety

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “I struggle to believe I’m worthy of moments of joy and peace without first putting myself through a brutal schedule, monitoring my productivity levels down to the minute. Perhaps some people apply this “earn your cookie” mindset in ways that lead to healthy achievements. Not me. Mine is a mutation whereby joy and self-compassion are regularly outlawed by an internal tyrant who decides when I’ve been flogged enough for one day. Just when I’m about to collapse, a...

1 day ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Here’s how to get Stoicism wrong: 1. Become emotionally immune to your successes but castigate yourself for your failures. This is Reverse Stoicism. It bestows all the downsides of indifference to your wins without any of the upsides of being immune to your losses. I think it's how many people operate - forgetting the victories but remembering the shortcomings. Reverse Stoicism is worse than no Stoicism at all. 2. Use it exclusively to benefit yourself. Stoicism was...

9 days ago • 2 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, It’s the 200th edition of this Newsletter! Two-flippin-hundred Mondays in a row. It also just broke 200,000 subscribers, so thank you to everyone who has joined and reads every week. If you’d like to say thank you & congratulate me - just tell your friends to join for free by sending them this link: https://chriswillx.com/books/ Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about this week. I love this one. Shadow sentences. You’re dating someone and they haven’t seen you...

16 days ago • 4 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “On social media, fools feel clever by mocking bigger fools, and scoundrels feel virtuous by condemning bigger scoundrels. We feel good simply by portraying others as worse. In an age of anxiety & inaction, many seek self-esteem not in their own abilities, but in other's failures.” — Gurwinder Bhogal This is one of my least favourite trends. I am so bored of cynicism on the internet. I'm sick of seeing comment sections just filled with self-defeating, world-hating...

23 days ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Here are four of the most important things I’ve realised about problems and stress: 1. Problems are a feature of life, not a bug. There will never come a time when you have no problems. What, did you think that one day you’re just going to wake up and cease having problems? Like completing a video game and levelling up to a map where there’s nothing there? That’s never going to happen. Your problems will change, but having problems is going nowhere. Dealing with...

30 days ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “Talking about the thing and doing the thing vie for the same resources. Allocate your energy appropriately.” — Ryan Holiday This is an insight I’ve been thinking about for ages. It’s actually represented within our brains too. Talking about our plans gives us a small reward, a dump of dopamine. No where near as much as doing the thing would do. But it also takes no where near as much effort as doing the thing would do. This is how people can get stuck in the trap...

about 1 month ago • 2 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, “Neediness occurs when you place a higher priority on what others think of you than what you think of yourself. Any time you alter your words or behavior to fit someone else’s needs rather than your own, that is needy. Any time you lie about your interests, hobbies, or background, that is needy. Any time you pursue a goal to impress others rather than fulfill yourself, that is needy. Whereas most people focus on what behavior is attractive/unattractive, what...

about 1 month ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, I had a conversation this week with a friend about emotions, specifically jealousy, frustration and anger. About how they hijack even the most cerebral, cognitively sophisticated person. It’s highly annoying. You spend all this time trying to be a rational, agentic beast. Then a thing happens that disrupts your emotional state and you turn into a petulant toddler. He explained that when he finds himself getting carried away by jealousy, frustration or anger he asks...

about 2 months ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, Don’t wait. Life is happening right now. I’ve become obsessed with the belief that life’s duties will one day be out of the way and you can then finally start doing the thing you want to and living your life fully. This is a myth. It’s a lie. Marie-Louise von Franz talks about “the provisional life”. “There is a strange feeling that one is not yet in real life. For the time being, one is doing this or that… [but] there is always the fantasy that sometime in the...

about 2 months ago • 3 min read

3 MINUTE MONDAY Hi friend, 10 reasons why working for yourself absolutely sucks. Pretty much everyone on the internet is telling you to leave your job and go work for yourself. If you're not already side-hustling your way to a million, you should flip your soyboy boss off as you hand in your resignation to finally carve out your own destiny. But there are some huge dark sides to running your own business that the Hustle & Grind world will never advertise. So allow me to enlighten you. You are...

2 months ago • 8 min read
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